This is an installment in a series called Healing Turning Points: Transforming Pain into Self-Love.
The purpose of this series is to show you that you are not alone, that others have experienced the same pains you have, and that there is a path to healing.
You can catch up with all installments of the Healing Turning Points series below:
Healing our emotional wounds is a journey that is unique for each person and full of twists and turns, as well as surprising realizations. While we can be mostly healed from our past, our growth continues and as we grow, different aspects of ourselves are brought to light. This can bring up new aspects of early wounds. This is just a natural part of the healing process.
But one thing that is true for me, and has been for all the people I’ve helped, is that you never forget that point – the point in your life when you finally said, “ENOUGH!”
I call this the “Healing Turning Point”.
We get to our Healing Turning Point in our own time, some people suffer longer than others before deciding to seek the help they need, but eventually, we all experience that moment when we know something has to change.
Today, my client, Izabela, is sharing her Healing Turning Point story…
I found Elicia’s and Doug’s Core Emotional Healing Therapy a stroke of genius. In the mainstream world, where apparently I should be medicated and was labeled as the one with mental health problems, Elicia and Doug dispelled the myths.
They cleared away the fog and guided me to discover and heal the healthy me that was always there but engulfed and buried under misinformation, lack of real understanding, rejection, stigma, and lots of layers of fakery in order to please everyone but me.
I had been suffering from a long list of symptoms, both mental and physical. These included anxiety, social anxiety, recurring episodes of depression, and candida like symptoms of fungal toe infections, athlete’s foot, acne, dermatitis, dandruff, wheat/ dairy/sugar intolerance that showed up as spots on my belly and arms, frequent headaches/migraines, hair loss, tiredness, weird throat problems, and silent reflux. Obviously, that’s a hell of a list that was approached individually by doctors. No one saw the big picture, and everyone got angry with me when I suggested that those symptoms might represent one big problem and might be connected. Many years ago, at my very last visit to see a doctor I got angry. Thank god I did!I approached Elicia as I reached a turning point, at rock bottom. I wanted to end my life. The whole list of things I wrote made me feel stupid, unwanted, unloved, unseen, unheard, lonely, misunderstood, and like a lost cause.
With Elicia and Doug, I found love, awareness, time, energy, acceptance, patience, safety, wisdom, compassion, intelligence, inspiration, fun, resources, and teachings that I have never found anywhere else. In fact, everywhere else I looked I was reduced to a label of anxiety and shyness. In the traditional healing world, I was deconstructed into just two parts, physical and mental. I was prescribed various medications, and totally separately, tried to address the mental, with antidepressant medication and talk therapy.
Elicia and Doug took an approach no one else did. They saw all parts of me and addressed them all.
I was taken care of on an emotional, physical, spiritual, mental, and energetic level because I’m not solely a physical being nor the intellectual one. I learned from them that the latter is, in fact, glorified at the expense of our emotional wellbeing. Despite my social anxiety I have always searched for group therapy, but I couldn’t find anything over the years or it was always too expensive for me. With Elicia and Doug, I found exactly what I needed, a group that felt safe for me to open up, tell my truth, and show the shame and fear that stood in the way of my health and healing for such a long time. In turn, by seeing and listening to each other, we could resonate with each other’s stories. I found the weekly group therapy video sessions to be a very powerful element of the Core Emotional Healing Process. While so much happens there, it was really good to look into each other’s eyes and feel safe while telling our stories. Revealing our innermost pain and fear were exactly what was needed for wholeness and healing. In addition, the Facebook group support is also brilliant. In between the weekly video calls, I could always post a question or cry for help instead of struggling on my own. In other therapy, I would stew in my anxiety and get worse while waiting for my session, which I found very damaging and confusing.
I have experienced so-called tough times since my program ended and yet, credit to Elicia and Doug, I’m still standing and writing this testimonial. There’s an old saying, usually attributed to Confucius, that goes something like, “Give a man a fish, and you’ll feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you’ve fed him for a lifetime.” In the CEH Group Program, I really experienced both. I felt fed and nourished throughout the experience, but also ended my time in the program with everything I need to continue the work on my own. I have been given a lot of amazing tools and resources to be able to do so and to my surprise, I am using them. The seeds really have landed and are sprouting!
I have found myself caring more for myself, my inner child, and my emotions. I am happy to just listen to myself, my body, and my emotions with curiosity and compassion rather than annoyance and anxiety as before. This is a massive shift for me and it made me feel very empowered.
I have been experiencing sometimes slow but also sometimes quite amazing shifts and changes in my health and symptoms for the better. There is still some work to be done, especially around my skin as I think this is a big or even core symptom in my case. Again, I feel more empowered to accept it as a process and a message now rather than a source of anxiety and anger towards my body and the world at the injustice of it. I have not been anxious, socially anxious, or depressed to the debilitating extent that I was before. I would say I’m 70% better in terms of anxiety and have no depressive feelings whatsoever.
Others have noticed that I am more calm and stable. I am more giggly and joyful. I have the motivation to work and exercise and still implement the changes and go on with the process. I’m aware that this is a deep process and one that unfolds and goes on as I keep uncovering new layers of repressed emotions.
In terms of physical symptoms, some have massively improved or gone away entirely (fungal toenail infection, athlete’s foot, hair loss, tiredness), while others still show up here and there to tell me that I am on the journey of discovery that takes time.
I have, however, noticed a massive improvement in my skin, acne, dandruff, headaches, throat, and intolerance spots – the ones on the belly don’t show up at all and the ones on the arms are few and far between.
My headaches are reduced massively and if they do show up, with the care and tools I implement from the Core Emotional Healing, they have reduced from lasting for 3 days to just 1 day now. I am really moving toward much better health!I am very happy, privileged, and humbled to have been able to work with Elicia and Doug and to have been able to meet them. Izabela
If you’ve been struggling and would like to experience your own healing turning point, I have a free gift for you… Empowered Healing: Discover your truth and confidently guide your own healing!Until you have addressed the root cause of the symptoms that are holding you back, you will not be free to step into your authentic self: inspired, creative, loving, and powerful. Let this be your healing turning point…
Lots of love!